Welcome back to the “Healthy Life” podcast. Today we’re going to focus on our environment... when things don’t smell quite right...
I want to start today with a very important piece of information... people react or respond in one of two ways, out of love or fear. It’s that simple. But it’s important to know, understand, and acknowledge that after our stroke we tend to react out of fear.
It’s a fact and one that’s completely understandable. I mean consider this, in a matter of seconds our lives got turned completely upside down. Many of us seemingly lost everything and for those that didn’t... they got the scare of their lives.
Now before I go on I want to explain a big difference between two words... reacting and responding. Reacting is something that is innate and automatic. Much like a knee jerk when reflexes are checked.... it just happens automatically and can’t be controlled. Responding is a thoughtful choice. After our stroke many of us struggle to respond and instead react to most or many things out of fear.
The real challenge comes from realizing that the fear we often feel is a fear of the unknown... or the ‘what if’. After the stroke many “switches” we used to have, many controls either are removed, become locked in an on or off position and are seemingly uncontrollable. I can tell you from personal experience that you can get that connection and control back naturally. Many times medications or drugs will be suggested to create that control. The problem that you must be aware of is that medications all have side effects.
Please understand what I’m saying... you must know each medication and why it’s being suggested and what side effects it has. When I was in the hospital I was prescribed 12 medications. When I left I refused them all and met with my personal doctor and took 4 meds that she prescribed. Now I take one and watch my blood pressure 4 times a day. The point I’m trying to make is this...
Understand that medications create a response in the body not healing. Change occurs in the slow degradation of liver and kidney functions. There are more natural ways that heal. Some medications must be used but you must stay informed.
All this is to lead into challenging you to be aware of yourself and your environment and what’s in in and how you interact with it. If you are anything like me the stroke caused devastating physical challenges. You can bitch and complain about them incessantly but I’ll let you know that people will tire of that quickly.
Instead I’ll challenge you to work on learning to “respond” to the negative things in positive ways. Think... give yourself permission to “not know” and ask others for their advice and experiences. I’ll guarantee you that there are thousands who can provide insights, tips and help. You don’t have to admit to family members or friends what you are struggling with. But please be honest with yourself... I fought intensely with myself... and finally had to admit to myself how screwed up I was, not only physically, but emotionally and mentally. I think one of the things we try to do is make ourselves either invisible or appear normal. I used to joke that if I didn’t move or talk I appeared almost normal!
So why is it important to be aware of ourselves in our environment? Because how we act with others is usually how we see ourselves. We need to see, understand, and acknowledge that we are a work in progress. I know we thought we had arrived before we had our stroke but we can use this learning, healing and transition time to benefit ourselves and others!
Well that’s all for today ... thanks for joining me, please feel free to leave me a message at stroke.global or Facebook. Keep in mind this podcast is designed to be brief so it’s easy to add to your day... feel free to share this with others, email us your feedback and questions and follow us online on our website stroke.global or on Facebook or our twitter site. I’m excited to call you friend and look forward to supporting you in the future.