Welcome back to the Healthy Life Podcast.. today we will look at the priorities we have, what impacts them and how they have changed. I’ll begin with a question.... do you have a “catch-all” drawer in your house? You know that drawer that seems to always increase in size of what it contains, even though half of the items are one-offs or a pair missing the other half. Buttons, twist ties, USB’s, note paper scraps with once important data on it, keys to unknown items, padlocks without combinations, screw drivers, coins... well... you get the idea.
Priorities often are much the same... things are done in a certain way or on a certain schedule not necessarily because it is best but because that’s how it’s developed or done over time. Now that there has been a catastrophic event in our lives we need to take advantage of the event to think through and sort out our priorities and how best to meet them. I mentioned, not long ago, in another podcast, that when I suffered my stroke I didn’t stop being a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, or church and community member... I just added stroke survivor to my list.
That meant I didn’t necessarily change my priorities... I just added to my list. Whoa! This is where you better stop ?. Adding is not always best. Considering we endured a catastrophic event we need to reassess or priorities and when and how we attain them. Usually the old us would often just pile on! Now we need to think through each thing and determine the best way to see success. More often than not I’ve seen stroke survivors get discouraged and give up... why... because they fall into old habits and ways of doing things that no longer work well.
Success has to be the goal. With that in mind there are a few things you should realize and accept regarding setting priorities:
Mornings have been shown to be the best time to schedule things that must be done. We have our best degree of energy and mental enthusiasm early in the day.
The amount of time that we should set aside to accomplish a task should be carefully considered and weighted based on other things that we have scheduled for the day. Do not over schedule, overdo, or set your expectations too high. Instead expectations should be expanding with success and confidence.
Priorities and accomplishments should be like a circular staircase leading to higher and higher goals and priorities with each accomplishment (steps). They don’t have to differ greatly and may seem repetitive but we build on our successes.
Because of physical challenges that we may currently face... adaptations and allowances must be made temporarily with the expectation that we are always improving even if it is not apparent. An example you might consider is the rising tide... wave still come and go as the tide slowly rises... even if it’s not obvious initially.
Recovery time is critical to add and make allowances for. Just as a snake must recoil in order to strike again, so too we must allot recovery time to anything that we are doing to see the best success occur.
And finally we must reward ourselves for even the simplest accomplishments. I always found it more of a challenge to find and notice my children doing the right things and
reward them.... it seemed I could always find something not perfect and say negative things but that type of negative behavior only promoted negative responses. Instead we too need to catch ourselves doing good things and reward those. I spent months trying to extend my hand to my husband and kids every day only to slowly see my “dead fish” arm become a real extension and the limp hand slowly become a grip and shake over time.
We need to reinforce those positive actions we see no matter how small... you know years ago there was a song that said “accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative... that’s a point we need to take to heart! We have to make recovering our health our number one priority... we can’t hope to rehabilitate our bodies without regaining and rehabilitating our health... the results are well worth it.
Well...Thanks so much for joining me as we learned the importance of understanding the priorities that we have, what impacts them and how they have changed..... Remember to visit the stroke.global web site often and give us feedback!... I also hope you’ll join us tomorrow! As always it’s an honor and a pleasure sharing today.... thank you! I hope you’ve enjoyed this podcast... we keep it brief so it’s easy to add to your day... we are on iTunes and Google Play and have links to both on our stroke.global page... please subscribe it boosts us in the ratings and helps us in being able to continue these stroke survivor podcasts.
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