Welcome back to the “Healthy Life” podcast. Today I want to talk about “feeling” in several ways. First I’ll ask you to think back to a study done years ago about the deaths of children in orphanages who lacked physical contact. It is imperative that we understand and acknowledge the power that “touch” has. There have been multiple studies that reinforce the power of touch and what it can do such as:
Those are just a few things that have been demonstrated to be effected by touch but I want to focus at one specific area... that of healing! It is so critical that when we were patients in the hospital after our stroke, we had nursing staff, doctors, and techs that touched us. Not just in a functional mode required to accomplish their job but in a supportive, loving, and caring manner. Now I know that in this #metoo time in our society there is often hyper-sensitivity to personal contact and touch. But those of us that still have common sense I challenge you to use it!
People want to help in your healing. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard from people that they want to help but do not know how... ok here goes I’m going to share the “how” with you so either pay attention or take notes...
If you are visiting in the hospital, find out the visiting hours and determine if someone from the family or church is coordinating visits. Then go at a time that the person coordinating suggests. If no one is coordinating either volunteer to do that yourself or suggest someone. (Space out visits - stroke survivors have a limited amount of energy and talking takes a toll) Many times if someone does not coordinate it is either feast or famine!
Remember when you are visiting (hospital or home) you are there for them... not you... ask questions... be uplifting, encourage them... in other words have a goal and set a follow up visit! Try not to use “clichés” and if you mention prayer... then take them by the hand and do it! Do not merely suggest you’ll pray fo them.
When visiting if the stroke survivor is in bed... pull up a chair, get close... if they are in a wheelchair then sit down. Make certain you are in a comfortable place in the home, a warm and quiet room without distractions. If you are the stroke survivor at home you too need to be aware of these things.
Physical touch (a hand on the arm or hand on hand ?) is a simple thing that conveys a multitude of feelings at the same time... comfort, acceptance, camaraderie, closeness, friendship, devotion, affection, agreement, harmony, love, solidarity, and understanding to name a few...
A simple touch and look surpasses all words and conveys so much more. Please do not misunderstand me... It’s not that words aren’t necessary but they are best when combined with a touch.
So you ask.... what about those who have a loss of sensation on their affected side. Boy, do I understand that... I went for three year with no feeling on my affected side... not less feeling... no feeling! And I was told by multiple doctors that it was never coming back and I should just be happy and content with what I had. BS (bologna slices - G rated podcast) I was not happy or content! Three years after my stroke I became the first American to receive traditional Chinese medical treatment in China. It brought back full feeling and function. That was more than I could have thought I’d get back! But it allowed me to also realize and tell others about things that will help them too.
I recommend using a dry luffa sponge to gently rub and stimulate the affected side.... head to toe. I did this from the day of my stroke on... when three years later I received TCM I responded much faster because the connections in my brain were more active. Think about it the data stream to our limb has been affected in the brain! We dot have a stroke in the leg or arm but in the brain! So the more we can do to build up that dat steam the better.
Well that’s all the time we have for today ... I’m glad that we can feel the power of touch in our lives and also do the things that will help tactile feeling to return. I’m also thrilled that you joined me today and look forward to sharing with you again tomorrow ... thanks so much for joining me, ...please feel free to leave me a message at stroke.global or on Facebook @stroke.global, I enjoy seeing them all.
It’s been a pleasure sharing today and I hope you’ve enjoyed this podcast... we keep it brief so it’s easy to add to your day... we want to thank our sponsor TCM Restoration for helping us provide this venue. Feel free to share this podcast with others, offer your feedback and questions and follow us online on our website stroke.global or on our Facebook page. See you back here tomorrow!