Welcome back to the “Healthy Life” podcast. Today we’re going to focus on learning to listen to those around us. We have to be careful of what we allow ourselves to hear and believe. It will impact who and what you become. As children many of us were taught “garbage in... garbage out”. Meaning bad things, bad words, bad feelings, bad emotions taken in....listened to ...surrounded by... and the results provided ...the outcome... it will be negative.
It’s so easy after surviving a stroke... to feel devastated ...that nothing will be the same... to feel like you don’t even want to live! But wait! As a medical professional I used to tell Patients to wait... not to make any big life changing decisions for at least 6 months to 1 year. Why? Because things change! The only thing that you can be certain of is change. God gave us two ears and one mouth in the hope that we would listen twice as much as we speak. We have, our lives have, our friends and family have been devastated by our stroke.
It is, therefore, critical that we are very careful about what we listen to and are asked to believe. Challenge family members to either listen to these podcasts or email me their thoughts and questions. They are speaking to and listening to the only “expert” they know. One thing that I became aware of after my stroke was how much my physician didn’t know. Don’t get me wrong, he knew a lot but when I asked him 2 months after my stroke what I should expect he looked at me and said... “you tell me what happens... no patient I’ve had has ever lived with your type of stroke.”
On the way home from that appointment my husband confided in me that that one comment was like getting socked in the gut. In that moment he went from “believing” everything he was being told to “questioning” everything that was said. His eyes were opened. I guess in this day and age it would be said that he’s “woke.”
The moment we have our stroke we need to start filtering what we are being told and what we believe. In this day and age of information we need to be responsible for discovering the truth. It’s not easy and it takes a considerable amount of time. Just to let you know... I no longer have a “job”, I was considered 100% disabled after my stroke but I chose not to apply for disability. I now invest my time in speaking, hand-holding, emailing and blogging, helping to seek out and provide knowledge to others, who like me, are stroke survivors.
Could I work now? Sure! After my treatment I got almost everything back and have been offered countless jobs and positions but I feel it’s my duty to serve others. To seek out and provide information regarding stroke, it’s effects, and helping others find those answers. That’s one of the reasons I helped found TCM Restoration and why I invest my time on stroke.global and podcasting. We stroke survivors need to have a voice. And one that understands what we are going through.
So how do you practice or integrate good listening habits? First, be open minded... now this doesn’t mean accept everything but be open to things. Look at things differently. Guess what every coin has 3 sides (front, back and the side) not two as most believe. Realize that because of your experiences and stroke you will see thing differently. Use this to your advantage. Test things to make certain they are true. Second, surround yourself with something or someone who will be positive, up tempo, and often provide new light on a subject. Don’t just surround yourself with people just like you. Third, stay young at heart and stay informed. My best friend is thirty years my junior and always challenging me!
If you haven’t guessed by now this podcast is my passion so I ask you all to listen, share, provide input, give feedback, reach out and understand that you are important and do have a lot to offer!
Well that’s all for today ... thanks for joining me, feel feee to leave me a message at stroke.global and let’s begin to change your tomorrow.