Welcome back to the Healthy Life Podcast ... Do you remember the name - Steven Hawkins (January 8th, 1942 to March 14th, 2018) He was a theoretical physicist, cosmologist, and author he was also diagnosed with a rare early-onset slow-progressing form of motor neuron disease (MND; also known as amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, "ALS", or Lou Gehrig's disease), a terminal illness that affects and causes the deaths of neurons that control the brain and the spinal cord, that gradually paralyzed him over the decades. He was on crutches in the 1960s, wheelchair by the 70’s and deteriorating voice in the ‘70s.
The fact that he was an ardent participator in life until his passing at 76 years of age tells me that we have everything to live for and give... Any other attitude is just unacceptable! With that in mind I know what you see in the mirror is often troubling at first. But you and muscles get stronger and change. Emotionally, strokes are devastating and controls that were once automatic are now either locked on or off. With time and appropriate work and exercises you can get back to normal but it often seems out of reach.
Online support groups are great but we need to surround ourselves with uplifting and positive thoughts. Many times as I skim through a group I see a lot of negative postings and I pause and try and decide how or if to respond. I am often challenged by how I would have told my children to handle and respond. to challenging situations. When I suffered my stroke I spent countless hours alone at home in my recliner. I had severe incontinence problems so to my detriment I limited my fluid intake and my mobility was limited to where I could kick a wheelchair or drag myself on the floor.
I was blessed by having several dogs who stayed with me all day... I just had to survive until my children came home from school... so I know of what I speak and ask! I never let my kids see me in a down mood and I fought to get better and had long talks with my spouse. I was the third female paramedic in the state of Iowa so I know what it’s like to fight an uphill battle... I spent 8 years in the air force so I understand discipline and following orders... and as a mom I experienced the pain and joy of childbirth... not just once ...but three times. But nothing could have prepared me for suffering a stroke! I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy... think about it... but not wish it.
When I found healing and answers I promised myself and God that I’d help others. I’d dedicate myself and devote my time to others... and I’m blessed to be able to do just that. I put out positive quotes and pictures daily to bring hope.. I share on this podcast... tips, struggles, challenges and more... it’s so important that we have a place to turn to... I’m so excited I am blessed to talk to you! I know your anger, frustration, and pain. I understand that ... and if there is a low.... I’ve been lower... struggle is not new. I’ve said that character is built, not by enduring a situation but by choosing to overcome a problem. Sure... it requires creativity, thinking outside the box, and developing ideas when there are none... tenacity, determination, and guts!
I understand we all need to be able to have that moment of weakness... but it should only last a moment and then we better have someone who will kick us in the butt and holler for us to move on! Years ago I told my kids that I did not desire to be their friend... they had friends... I was there mom! Their parent.... it was my job... to prepare them to live in the real world. Once there I said we could become friends as adults but I would always be mom.
Much like that... I have people I’ve asked and given permission to... to kick me in the backside when I need it. They are understanding and strong and comforting as well as determined... we have each other’s back. You need that...if you don’t have that ask me... I’ll help... but I’ll kick you when you need it too! When you look in the mirror you need to see potential... not failure... every time I’m tempted to get frustrated or down I ask myself this question:
What would I expect of my kids? How have I taught them to respond?
It’s all about expectations and responses! Note... I said responses and not reactions... which implies thought, logic, and common sense are taken into account... not just feelings, emotions, and “love”. Now don’t get me wrong but most people even have a twisted understanding of “love”...
I feel that people respond out of love or fear... so I encourage people to respond out of love.... but... what is love? Love is patient and kind; love never is envious not jealous, is not boastful or vain, does not act superiorly. It is not conceited; it is not rude and does not act inappropriate. It should not insist on its own way; love is not touchy or resentful; it takes no account of the bad things done to it..... need I go on....
Love is strong! We need to go on for those around us as well as ourselves... Well that’s all our time today... thanks for joining me today as we talked about who and what we see in the mirror ... I look forward to chatting about exercises tomorrow ! Please feel free to leave me a message at stroke.global or on Facebook @stroke.global.
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