Episode notes: Today Ruth talks about the challenges she faced after her stroke and the barriers that she had to overcome. It often helps to hear and see others struggles and how they have accomplished and seen positive results in their life.
Ruth is a stroke survivor sharing tips and advice for rehab, recovery and healthy living including nutrition, exercises, personal care, healing and maintaining a grateful attitude. She can be found online at http://stroke.global were she offers help to stroke survivors and caregivers.
Welcome back to the Healthy Life Podcast... a friend tagged me the other day and at first I didn’t know how to take it but then after contemplating it I decided it was not a slam but a compliment. They called me Rehab Ruthie... so I guess I’ll let it stick and embrace it.... why... because they’re right...I’m all about seeking rehab, restoration, and healing for others. Well, with that said... I read a posting the other day where a stroke survivor was frustrated because they felt everyone wanted them to be happy all the time. Often it is our perception that is most harmful. The truth is we control our thoughts, mood, actions, inaction, choices... not others. Before our stroke it can be said that we too were not always happy... but I have a thought to throw out for you to chew on...
Before the stroke we had things we focused on that those around us understood. We verbalized frustrations with things but they were similar to the frustrations of others. So past frustrations were accepted. Now the stroke has brought things into focus for us that others do not understand and as a result either do not accept or avoid. Friends drift away or are always “busy”... too busy to be involved with us.
The first thing that you need to understand about your stroke is it has affected everyone close to you. Friends, family, acquaintances.... they all “suffered” from the stroke. Their suffering... and as a result their responses... are affected by their own ability to cope and respond rightly. Well let’s face it... we don’t always respond rightly so the chance they will.... very slim. We are trying to cope and so are they but if you are anything like me “patience” is not a strength and therefore we often get upset or frustrated with those around us.
We need to take a step back and consider “why” they are acting or responding as they are. Face it, I found that I could count my “friends” after my stroke one hand. Sure... I thought I had so many friends before my stroke and found out they were really fair weather friends or acquaintances. Wow! it was a slap in my face that took time to accept and understand. I felt offended, betrayed, misunderstood, and alone! But as soon as I began to understand the reality and facts behind their actions it became more acceptable. Sure... things hurt but were understandable.
Now we need to apply those same theories to our family members. They too have suffered from our stroke and are being forced into changes in action and behaviors that they didn’t seek. If you can do this... and it’s not easy... then you will reap the benefits. Rehabilitation, restoration, and healing do not just exist in the physical realm but also, and most critically, in our relationships. And the closer the connection the more careful we need to be at increasing our communication and employing patience, flexibility, and understanding.
Take a breath and consider where you are and have some sit down sessions with your spouse, kids, close friends and family. Be the bigger person here! There will be tears, hugging, apologies, frustrations... emotions of all kinds but you need to take your time and talk...
Well I’m going to end this time together it was challenging to learn a bit more about our relationships...Thanks so much for joining me and remember to visit the stroke.global ( “onlinerehabilitation.org” ) web site often and give us your feedback! I also hope you’ll join me tomorrow!
As always it’s an honor and a pleasure sharing today.... thank you! I pray that you’ve enjoyed this podcast... we keep it brief so it’s easy to add to your day... we are on iTunes, Spreaker, & Google Play and have links on our stroke.global page... please subscribe it boosts us in the ratings and helps us rise in the ranks so we can continue these stroke survivor podcasts.
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And thank you again for listening... Please feel free to share this podcast with others, offer your feedback and questions, and follow us online at our website stroke.global or on our Facebook page. Well...this is Rehab Ruthie...looking forward to learning more with you tomorrow... as we continue our adventure ...