Welcome back to the “Healthy Life” podcast. I want to start today’s podcast with a challenge... pause the show and take a minute to find a quarter. When you’ve got it come back and start listening again. For those who are lazy or know they don't have a quarter... you can just pretend! Ok so I’m going to assume you have the quarter... I will assume you can see out of both eyes ... so here goes... hold the quarter immediately in front of your right eye and at the same time close your left eye... (I might mention that if you have balance issues make certain to sit down and for heaven sakes don’t drive or operate machinery when you do this). Now the only thing you should see is a blurry quarter in front of your right eye... now while keeping your left eye closed slowly extend your arm so that the quarter is about 15 inches from your eye.
What do you see now? Hopefully you see not only the quarter but everything around it. Now I realize this is a simple challenge and demonstration but it points out a very serious potential flaw that we often fall victim to. When we are too close to a situation (say our stroke for instance) it is often unclear, appears bigger than it really is and it’s all we can see. It’s only when we get some distance that things begin to become more apparent. The size or severity of an event, the effect it has on everything else, how others fit in etc...
To us who had the stroke it’s everything or at least a big part of everything initially. For our spouse, family or close friends it will vary in its importance and affect. Most times when we are close in time to the stroke it can seemingly be all consuming for us. After all we were the ones who have suffered! My mother once remarked that the faster you can get a proper perspective on something and see it for what it is... the closer you’ll be to your answers and solutions. She would also say the sooner you could laugh at a situation or yourself in that situation the better you understood your place in the world and the more comfortable people were around you.
I know it’s difficult at this time and with such a serious event that has occurred but it is imperative to breathe... take a breath and pause. I didn’t realize all the challenges that I would face when I suffered the stroke but I lived and I’m here to tell you there is a tomorrow and dawn each new day!
I distinctly remember going home from the hospital which was an hours drive in Iowa country side. I thought I’d die several times on the way home.... everything went by so quickly, fence posts flew, and the “rolling” hills felt more like a roller coaster than a gentle drive. I longed for the days of a slow horse and wagon but probably would have complained about the bumps and ruts. I closed my eyes for the entire trip couched a basin in my lap and prayed I’d make it. Thank God I thought at least my kids weren’t there to see me in that state.
It’s amazing but following our stroke we are extremely selfish and self centered... partially out of lack of awareness and partially out of self preservation. So for the caregivers, family, and friends listening it’s not always intentional. Now I must be fair and honest and I must admit there are times we’re just pains in others backsides! Sorry... about that!
The point I’m trying to make today is that the stroke is an event... a major event in our lives. But we need to understand that it is just that.... an event. I’ve lived a number of years and it’s not polite to ask how many but I would tell you quite a few. Now I’m 17 years post stroke and suffered my brain bleed at 42 years of age and had three young kids at home! Devastating... yes! Life changing... yes! Sad, depressing, challenging.... yes, yes, and yes... but I never gave up. I tried everything to get better because my stroke was devastating. It took me three years before I found answers but I plodded on. Now I know that I made it and I live to help others but you have to be willing. Willing to remained focused, determined, and open... you set the pace... no one can do it for you. For those of you who feel like you’re on the sidelines.. watching...? Then cheer... be a support... be a fan... but be there!
Well that’s all the time we have for today ... thanks so much for joining me, and remember to get and maintain that proper perspective ...please feel free to leave me a message at stroke.global or on Facebook @stroke.global, I see them all and respond.
It’s been a pleasure sharing today and I hope you’ve enjoyed this podcast... we keep it brief so it’s easy to add to your day... we want to thank our sponsor TCM Restoration for helping us provide this venue. Feel free to share this podcast with others, offer your feedback and questions and follow us online on our website stroke.global or on our Facebook page. See you back here tomorrow!