Episode notes: Today Ruth talks about the importance and need we have for offense in living and humor in our lives...especially since the stroke.
Ruth is a stroke survivor sharing tips and advice for rehab, recovery and healthy living including nutrition, exercises, personal care, healing and maintaining a grateful attitude. She can be found online at http://stroke.global were she offers help to stroke survivors and caregivers.
Welcome back to the Healthy Life Podcast... today I want to talk about how much we need humor in our lives. As a young adult (in my 20’s) my mom shared a very good piece of advice that keeps on giving. She said that the faster we were able to look at a disastrous situation and laugh at something in it... the faster that we would recover from it and begin dealing with it. Now this was a woman whose husband died when she was 39, and found herself alone with 6 kids and pregnant with a seventh!
If anyone had reason to be upset and angry... she did! I was number seven! I’m thrilled she had me and didn’t give up or give in. She did not live long enough to see me have a stroke when I was only 42. But had she lived... I’m confident that she would have consoled me for 30 seconds before making a wise crack about taking up good bed space in the I.C.U.... She understood first hand how critical it is to put things in their proper places and deal with devastation by playing offense instead of defense.
Unfortunately too many times we take life too seriously and fail to enjoy the little moments we’ve all been given. I have way too many circumstances that are borderline unrecoverable... but each time I chose to rise from the ashes and live on. I was certain that when I suffered my stroke the world would stop ?. Guess what... it didn’t... in fact it went on ...and from my perspective it even sped up. Talk about eye opening! This past week two sad and detached individuals shot and killed others and a lot of people are hurling insults and blame.
Just stop! Stop and realize the moment we are born we begin to die... we do not know what hour or what moment we will breathe or last. This week I lost a family member and then a friend.... none of us knows when...! For those of us who have survived a stroke... you are blessed... not cursed to have lived. How can you give back? Help others? Enjoy today? Sometimes I just have to unplug... the TV... the cell phone... the computer... the VCR... DVD and just enjoy the people in my life. Do I appreciate them, thank them, honor them, esteem them, smile at them, give to them of my knowledge experience and humor... or... do I hurl insults, talk behind their backs, demand of them, take from them, exude guilt in their direction?
Ok back to my mom, a woman of uncanny knowledge and experience.... and I regret the fact that I didn’t tell her that to her face when she was alive! But the story I want to relate is how she reacted to us when we fell down while learning to walk... she didn’t rush up to us and stand us up and immediately ask if we were ok... instead she would run up and immediately feel the floor... then remark as she picked us up.... ok... no dents! And then give a big sigh of relief and say... you ok too? Her response was deliberate and planned to catch us off guard and surprise us... we were amazed and seldom stopped to cry. She had averted tear filled conditioning and taught us to just go on.
The fact is... she knew we were ok... if we weren’t she would have responded quite differently... but the reality is that many of us were taught to react to situations rather than learning to respond... in her own way she was educating us, through her example. I distinctly remember a basketball game where I slid into a set of benches only to be followed immediately by the gal guarding me who inadvertently slammed into me pinching my spine. I went numb and collapsed in a heap and was gently rolled on a stretcher and spent the night in the hospital. In that case she was with me every moment and didn’t crack a joke until the doctor confirmed I’d be ok.
You see... she knew... it takes thought to respond rightly and it takes thought to invoke appropriate humor. Anyone can react! Unfortunately it makes for good video fodder and is often hyped to sell clicks and make money. Those of us who have survived the initial drama and trauma... we know! We are the ones who should realize how precious life really is and how blessed we are to have it everyday. And yes this is how I am everyday. I allow down time, rest and recovery...but it’s limited... just as our lives on this planet are!
I challenge you to live life to its fullest today and do not give in to anger and sadness. Choose to not live in the world of regret but live completely so if tomorrow you check in to your heavenly estate you’ll leave nothing said or undone. It’s an attitude I developed serving in the military. I am a believer in God and I look forward to the day when He’ll remove every sorrow & wipe away every tear!
Well...Thanks so much for joining me as we learned about “living on offense and using humor”, how we have the need for humor and how to choose to implement it....... Remember to visit the stroke.global web site often and give us feedback!... I also hope you’ll join us tomorrow! As always it’s an honor and a pleasure sharing today.... thank you! I pray that you’ve enjoyed this podcast... we keep it brief so it’s easy to add to your day... we are on iTunes and Google Play and have links to both on our stroke.global page... please subscribe it boosts us in the ratings and helps us in being able to continue these stroke survivor podcasts.
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